I was in a car accident as a child. A tree fell on the car we were riding in and did quite a bit of damage to my body physically. After skin graphs and time, I healed, but I will always carry the scars. When it's cold out I feel pain in my hip and it's a reminder that it's still there, though it's not something I think of every day. I have hope that this pain will one day be something I don't think of every day but it becomes something in the back of my mind I think of from time to time.
When I was in an accident I had to let the wounds heal. If I had not been kept still to let the skin graphs take, or if I had chosen to pick at the wounds they never would have healed properly. My current wounds are emotional, spiritual, wounds of the heart. I have to chose not to pick at them. What does this mean for me? This means that I know there are certain shows and movies I can't watch because they trigger my pain. There are songs I can't listen to. There are people I have to limit my access to. I have to leave the wounds alone and let them heal. I have to take care of myself. I must learn what feels healing to me and what makes the pain worse.
The key is making the DECISION that you are going to do whatever it takes for you to begin healing. It's as individual as your fingerprint. Each person's healing process is going to look different.
I have made the decision to go where I feel I can heal. I am changing the environment I am in, the people I am with. I am going back to finish my degree so I can help other's dealing with trauma and grief. I don't think every pain needs to be turned into something beautiful but I want to use this pain to help other people because that's what helps me to feel better.